Become attractive on the inside to achieve success

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If one of your goals is to be successful — in any area of your life or career — the one thing you must to do is to become an attractive person. I’m not talking about external attractiveness, but rather the internal kind.

If you want success and all that it brings, you have to become a better, more attractive person. You become attractive by developing yourself into the person you know you need to be in order to attract, create and sustain the level of success you want in your life.

If you will just believe it’s possible, then you will do what it takes to bring about your desired result. If you think it is impossible, you will not do what is necessary, and you will continue to get zero results. Because in life, you hit what you aim for. If you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time.

Here are the steps you can take to become more attractive on the inside:


1. Examine your self-talk
Whether you know it or not, you have a running conversation with yourself all day, every day. Do you encourage or criticize yourself? Are you positive or negative with yourself? How you talk to yourself really does make a difference because if you want to change your life, you have to change not only the way you think about yourself, but more importantly, how you talk to yourself.

If you have someone in your life that constantly encourages you, that’s terrific. But you need to become your own cheerleader. You need to become your own encourager. Stop and think — have you ever complimented someone? I’m guessing yes. Have you ever complimented yourself on how you look, feel or on a job well-done? I’m guessing no. Don’t just recognize other people — recognize you. Start speaking positively and consolingly to yourself. When you make a mistake, don’t berate yourself. Tell yourself you will do better next time, and you are gaining valuable experience.


2. Banish your limiting beliefs
The greatest prison is the prison we create for ourselves. When we tell ourselves that we can’t do something or we are not good enough, this distances us from our true value and worth as a human being. You are worthy simply because you exist.


3. Add value
One of the quickest ways to change your negativity into positivity is to add value, or simply help someone else. Making a difference in the life of someone else invariably lifts your own self-esteem. It’s difficult to feel bad about yourself when you’re doing something nice for someone else. There is also a reciprocal effect.

When you add value to others, they value you more. You get to have more love in your life. That’s the beauty in giving. When you give to others, you benefit. If you want more love in your life, then be more loving to others. If you want more support, be more supportive to others. If you want more understanding, understand others better. It’s really that simple.


4. Always do the right thing
Since your self-worth is based upon positive habits, actions and decisions, you most definitely want to stay away from the feeling of guilt. You can do this when you make a commitment to always do what’s right, even if it’s difficult. When you feel guilty about something, it harms your self-image and self-esteem.

Conversely, when you do the things that are right, you continue to build character. It’s much like the game of Jenga. You are building blocks that constantly elevate your self-image. You become a stronger and more positive person.


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5. Take 100 percent responsibility for your life
If you want to be successful, you will have to lose the “blame-game” mentality. If your relationships aren’t going the way you want, you can’t blame the other person. You have to take full responsibility. If your health isn’t good, you can’t blame anyone. You decided what to eat, so you must take full responsibility. If you are in debt, you can’t blame the economy. You have to take 100 percent responsibility for the financial state you’re in. This isn’t easy, but it’s a must if you want to be successful.

This also goes for complaining. When you complain, you are blaming other people. You are the common denominator in your life, so that means you are the cause of all your life experiences. Stop complaining.

If you add two plus two and get five, is it the fault of mathematics? No, it’s you. If you are not getting the results you want in life, it’s not because of something outside yourself — it’s you. You are the problem, but fortunately, you are the solution as well. So no more lame excuses. If something doesn’t go as planned, ask yourself what you did to create or contribute to the problem. Make it a learning experience and think about how you can avoid it in the future.


6. Decide exactly what you want
In order to attain professional achievement, you must decide what you really want from your life and career. Take a minute to identify what you love doing. What is your passion? Look deep inside yourself to determine what you really enjoy.

All of us have a gift. Determine whatever it is you enjoy doing that takes the least amount of effort. Now write it down. Think back over your past jobs. What have been your most satisfying experiences and your most enjoyable moments? Aim to replicate those feelings as you either embark on a new career or entrepreneurial endeavor.

Remember, you must first accept the responsibility of deciding what you want, then dedicating yourself to becom­ing the person you need to be in order to get where you want to go.

One technique that many use with great success is visualization. Visualization is the act of seeing your­self where you want to be in X number of years. For instance, in three years, where do you want to be career-wise? What is your ideal job, your ideal salary and your ideal working conditions? Imagine that ev­ery job in the world was open to you. What would you enjoy doing day after day? It has often been said that if you find a job that you love to do, you won’t really have to work a day in your life. Find your passion, and this could be true for you too.


7. Get clear on your why
We often see celebrities who have reached the pinnacle of their industry receiving awards and accolades, but then we see that same celebrity the next day getting arrested. Why the discrepancy? Their focus on succeeding in one area of life created a great imbalance with the other areas. You do not want to be like this. You want balance in every area of your life. Strive for congruency.

Becoming successful is great, but make sure you do not focus all your attention on this. It could be detrimental to your health and relationships with others. Get clear on exactly why you want what you want. Without a purpose, you can easily become lost. Start by figuring out what your core values are.


8. Invite pain over for dinner
Take out a piece of paper and pencil. Draw two dots, one on the far right and the other on the far left. Then draw a line to connect the two dots. The dot on the left represents where you are and the dot on the right represents where you want to be. That long line in the middle represents a gap. How can you bridge this gap?

New knowledge and updated skills is a great place to start. You will have to do something new and different to get to where you want to be. But it won’t be easy — anything worthwhile never is.

Just look around you. Everything you see began as a thought in someone’s mind. The chair you’re sitting in. The book you’re reading. The car you drive. The clothes you’re wearing. Everything begins with a thought. Then, that thought turned into action. Action is oftentimes accompanied with pain. Why? Because you have to do something different. You have to get out of your comfort zone. You have to have self-discipline.

Olympic Gold Medalist Michael Phelps trained for years to get to the pinnacle of his sport. It wasn’t easy, but he was dedicated and stuck to a rigorous training schedule every day.


9. Think your way to success
Reflective thinking is the ability to revisit the past in order to gain a true perspective and think with understanding. This is important because reflection can help you achieve better results. Reflection allows difficult experiences to be our teachers. If we reflect on lessons learned, we not only live a better life, but are able to implement changes to ensure we don’t repeat that same experience again. And once you have learned the lesson, you are in a better position to be able to spare someone else those hard life lessons by mentoring others with the wisdom you’ve gained.


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