Entrepreneurs who complain are setting themselves up to fail

Posted on Posted in 2016 Business Opportunities For You, What's Trending Now

 

Your problems are proportional to the amount of time you spend complaining about your problems. The less you complain, the fewer problems you will have. This is because complaining about your problems keeps your attention on your problems. And attention generates force.

If you want to attract failure, talk about your problems. If you want to attract success, talk about what makes you happy. People with low self-esteem complain, which makes them less desirable to others and lowers their self-esteem further. It’s a vicious cycle. The only way to stay out of this cycle is to actively build up your self-esteem by practicing habits that prevent you from complaining in the first place. Here are those habits:

 

1. Focus on results, not yourself
Separate yourself from your problems. When you fail, see your mistakes as results-oriented setbacks, not personal shortcomings.

An experiment published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology tested 313 participants for self-esteem and had them play a fixed computer game forcing each one to win or lose. Both the winners and losers received either praise for their efforts, praise for themselves or no praise (the control group).

In the group where participants were praised for their personal qualities, the webmaster wrote, “Wow, you’re great!” The participants who were praised for their efforts were told, “Wow, you did a great job!”

After either winning or losing the game, the participants were told to complete a survey about their feelings of shame. Compared to all of the other groups, people who lost the game experienced significantly higher levels of shame if they had been praised for their personal qualities. The researchers concluded that focusing on results over personal qualities keeps people from associating their self-worth with failure or success.

 

DA 300 x 300

 

2. Create a sense of certainty
Complaining is a side effect of uncertainty. People with low self-esteem are uncertain about who they are and what they are capable of achieving. The secret to high self-esteem is to increase your certainty.

But it’s hard to create certainty in yourself or your abilities when you’re getting negative results. Most people getting negative feedback stop believing in themselves and displace their shortcomings by complaining about their problems. A better strategy is to learn from any negative feedback you get and immediately take action in a new direction.

Never stop believing in yourself. When things go wrong, don’t waste your energy complaining about external circumstances. Instead, focus inward and rebuild your sense of certainty. See yourself succeeding next time, then execute.

 

3. Adjust the situation to your advantage
Entrepreneurs should use negative events to their benefit. The two most common ways for people to regulate their emotions are reappraisal (changing the way they think about an emotional event) and suppression (changing the way they respond behaviorally to an emotional event).

The best way to reappraise a negative situation is to see yourself as the master of your problems rather than the victim. Your problems are at your disposal. You can think about them, learn from them and respond to them in any way you choose.

So, when something bad happens to you, change the way you interpret it. Instead of complaining or feeling sorry for yourself, focus on the result, not yourself, and find a way to learn from it as quickly as possible. When it comes to negative results, avoid permanent and personal thinking.

In this way, you will own your mistakes without owning them forever. Instead of complaining and possibly causing harm to your brain, you will turn obstacles into advantages. You will develop a greater sense of certainty over your life and business while also maintaining higher levels of self-esteem.

 

Hi guys, Vanessa Dunford {@vaniccilondon} here. I just want to grab this opportunity to THANK EACH OF YOU for engaging in my posts! It means the world to me!!! If You Want To Find Out How To: ? Get Your Dream Car Paid For You ? Earn While You Travel The World ? Live The Lifestyle That You Have Always Dreamed Of ?Watch The Amazing Testimonials Of Our Members And Their Results In My BIO link.??? ? Warning: We Only Accept Limited Number of Applicants/New Members Per Day At Any Given Time. ? Test Drive It Yourself Now and Try It For $1. Yes I Will Spell It Out – One Dollar To Try This System! ? You have your own Business Coach that will walk you through every step of the way. How cool is that? 🙂 Definitely a No Brainer Guys! Whatever you guys are up to – Stay Awesome! Talk soon, Vanessa #amazing #incredible #mindset #winners #opportunity #mentor #businesspassion #businesscoach #london #londoneye #londonlife #londontown #londoner #luxury #entrepreneurship #businesswomen #business #businesswoman #businessman #businessowner #onlinebusiness #millionaire #millionaires #millionairemindset #millionairelifestyle #makemoneyonline #homebasedbusiness #moneymaker #money #moneyteam

A video posted by Vanicci Dunford (@vaniccilondon) on

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *